~This is an excerpt from my new book, “My Collective Soul,” which will be released in Octover of 2017~
We live in a time of blaming others for our shortcomings. It’s easier to blame someone else than to take our accountability for our actions. I see it all the time. People living less of the life they want and pointing the finger at everyone else. They blame others; they say it’s someone else’s fault; they don’t know how to stand in their own truth.
And they do that because it’s easier to blame someone else than to look in the mirror and claim our part in what makes us unhappy.
No one wants to look in the mirror. It’s the mirror of our face, our shortcomings, our faults, our weaknesses, yet what most people don’t understand is that it’s also the mirror of our strength, of our successes, of our truth.
Most people fear the mirror because they don’t always like what they see, yet what you see is what you can change, if you choose to. What we see is our soul and our heart and if you can’t come to terms to accept what you see, then you, my friends, have the right to change it.
You were gifted the ability to change in yourself and your life what you don’t like. If you look in the mirror and see a weakness then go out and strengthen it. If you look in the mirror and see your faults then change it and see your strengths. If you look in the mirror and see and ugly person then change it to make yourself beautiful, and I don’t mean in looks.
Our hearts dictate our beauty. Our hearts allow the outside world to see who we are. Our hearts are the keepers of our secrets, and they also hold the keeper of our truth.
Let it out.
Look in the mirror and yourself and see your beauty. See your strengths, see your accomplishments, see all that you endured, see your illness, see your broken marriage or relationship, see the pain and the hurt.
See it all…
And then look again.
Look at YOU.
Stare at yourself for as long as you need to.
And within a few minutes your face will look different; your demeanor will change; your soul and heart will start to break through the negative sight of what you see and show you the light.
And know that all that stuff that happened to you is simply that: stuff. Let it go. And accept that anything that happenened to you was meant to. It was a lesson from your Higher Power to stop and take a look at your life; to take a look at yourself.
We all have a hand in our life. We love to blame everyone else, yet it takes two people to argue; two to fight; two to find love and two to end it. It takes two people to have an affair and two people to join together in marriage.
Stop blaming and take a step back.
Look in that mirror, point the finger at yourself and say: “It’s your own fault.”
And then forgive yourself for not being perfect, because you’re not supposed to be. You’re supposed to be human. You’re supposed to make mistakes, and you’re supposed to learn from them.
You’re supposed to feel pain so that you can feel happiness.
You’re supposed to give freedom for your heart to break so that you can learn how to heal it.
You’re supposed to fail at some things so that you can succeed at what you were meant to.
You’re supposed to cry so that you can smile.
You’re supposed to end a relationship so that you can begin another one.
You’re supposed to be human.
You see, you are amazing. You are an incredible individual and no one else is like you. We all have faults and that’s okay because the right friend or partner will love you for them. We all fall and we all can get up and we can get up stronger.
We all can make a choice; we all can take a chance; we all can fall deep down to the bottom.
And you can choose to get up.
So pick yourself up and get it right. Straighten up and straighten up. You can do it because I have. I’ve fallen so deep throughout my life that I couldn’t see the sun. I’ve been so weak that I lost sight of what strength felt like. I felt so alone that I forgot what love was.
And then I looked in the mirror.
I looked long and hard, and at first I didn’t like what I saw.
But I kept looking.
And within a few minutes I saw a girl who was simply broken from all that life had handed her. I looked her hard straight in her eyes and saw something that she didn’t: her will.
I wanted to be strong, I wanted to be better, I wanted a different life.
I kept looking at this girl who had become a stranger to me and felt compassion for her, and in that moment I realized I was feeling compassion for myself.
So I forgave myself for everything.
I knew it was my fault because I allowed it all to happen.
But as I looked at her in the mirror I let it gave, told her I loved her, and changed my life in that moment, just like that.
She became strong.
She believed in herself.
She loved herself.
And no matter what was her fault, she forgave it all.
And she forgave all the people that were a part of it.
And she cried tears of sadness as she let go and tears of happiness as she stood in her truth.
And all was right with her world.
And never again would she say “it’s your own fault” because she would never allow it to be.
Wishing you love and light,