“Love”

We’re all looking for love and I believe in love. I am a hopeless romantic and believe that love can be all that we dream of, all that we hope for, all that we wish for. When it’s with the right person, it’s amazing.

What is love to me? Love is wanting someone so much that it hurts when you’re not together. Love is sharing your most intimate wishes and dreams. Love is being able to be vulnerable to express your feelings without judgment. Love is disagreements without hurtful arguing. Love is 100% honesty, no matter what. Love is respect. Love is knowing who the other person is and never hurting them for being who they are. Love is joy, love is happiness, love is everything.

Love isn’t complicated, it’s people who make it that way.

Love doesn’t always have to be easy, but it should never be hard.

Love shouldn’t take work, but it should take effort.

No matter how many failed relationships I’ve had or how many people have hurt me, I will always believe in love.

I have to believe in it because without that belief, there’s no hope in thinking that it’s possible.

Everything is based on love.

Love is the basis of all things.

Love can change a life, change a person and could most definitely change the world.

What is love to you?

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~

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“Home Is Where Your Heart Travels To”

I’m feeling unusually happy today. It could be that it’s because I have two days off from work, or that I’m letting go of things that no longer serve me. It could be that I’ve accepted that some things will never change and that the only thing I can change is “me!” And I’m working on that.

I’ve been in Florida for four months now and am finally getting used to it. I’m in a beautiful house which is somewhat of a blank canvas at the moment. I have the basics of furniture but haven’t put up anything on the walls or decorated very much. Some may ask why I haven’t done that yet, and I’ll tell you why: I wanted to give myself time to get to know the house and to see who I would become here. I guess you could also add an almost Category 5 hurricane when I got here!

It’s time, though. The house and I have gotten to know each other very well and I’m excited to see how it all looks when I get down to turning it into a home! It’s time for me to understand that this is “home” now. It was a difficult transition from the Jersey Shore to here but this is my reality and I’m finally accepting that.

“Home is where the heart is” but the hard part is that it’s just MY heart here. My heart is scattered around the country with the ones I love the most and it’s been tough getting used to not having those “hearts” with me. I know that life is filled with changes and moving here on my own was my hardest change of all, but I believe with all my heart that this is where I’m meant to be.

So, on this chilly night in Florida, my house and I are spending a quiet night at home together with my thoughts spread out throughout the country to those that I love and miss.

Home may be where the heart is but while my heart is here alone with me, it’s learned to travel the distance to be with the ones I love the most. They are forever in my heart and always in my thoughts. I’m beginning to believe that “home is where your heart travels to, not where it’s living.”

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~

“Vulnerability”

We all want to feel important to the people who are important to us. We want to know that we’re a priority, not a convenience. We want to know that the relationship means as much to them as it does to us.

It doesn’t always work that way.

We are all different and what’s important to the people we care about may not be important to us. It’s crucial that in any relationship you have to communicate. You have to be vulnerable with your feelings and not be judged for them. You have to listen and understand that the other person may feel differently than you.

And that’s what makes life interesting. We’re different and if we weren’t, life would be boring. We have to accept the people in our life for WHO they are, not what you want them to be.

You learn from the differences of others. You may learn a different perspective, or different way of thinking, and you may even learn more about yourself.

I know that disagreements happen but I also know that through communication comes a deeper understanding about the nature of the disagreement. You have to be vulnerable to communicate with others, especially those that you are closest to, and that honest vulnerability should never be judged.

I think it’s a gift when someone in my life is vulnerable to me. It means they trust their feelings with me and know that they won’t be judged or told that they’re wrong.

And when disagreements come up in your relationship, friendships or family, remember this: “Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don’t be mean when you say it.”

Kindness, compassion and understanding go a long way.

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~

“Go Easy On Yourself”

“Go easy on yourself, darling. You’re in something new.” ~S.C. Lourie

I saw this quote and wanted to share it with you. It definitely resonated with me today.

Everything for me in Florida is new. It’s a new house, a new job, a new town, a new state, new roads to get used to, new way to live by myself and that’s just to name a few.

But how do you live with all the “new” when you still have a big piece of yourself invested in a piece of the “old?”

A big piece of my heart is still attached to something important back home. I can’t change that, it’s a reality, but how do you incorporate that important piece of the “old” into the “new?”

I’m struggling with that a bit today and trying to understand how to do it and do it well.

But for now, I’m going to go easy on myself. I’m in something new.

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~

“Random Moments”

I love watching people. I love watching their interactions and their expressions. Today at work I saw some pretty awesome stuff.

I saw a couple holding hands over coffee. I saw a couple cracking jokes and laughing with each other. I saw a table of friends talking about their troubles and their good times over breakfast.

You know, it’s moments like these that I smile and think how lucky I am to have witnessed such random, beautiful moments.

The moments are simple, uncomplicated and honest, yet it’s moments like these that I think to myself: “This is what life is all about.”

It’s the day to day routine that can bring the most joy to those involved in it and to those witnessing it.

And today I was blessed to see joy, to see laughter and most of all, to see love.

Keep your eyes open, my loves. You never know what life has to show you.

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~

“A Florida Cold Snap!”

There’s a million things that I should have been doing today but didn’t. I still have unpacking to do, paperwork to get through and a book to finish editing, yet it was one of those cool, baby blue sky days in Florida. Most days here are beautiful but today was a bit different. We’ve gotten a “cold snap” as they say here, but what it really is is a morning that starts out at 53 degrees with an afternoon high of 78. Yes, that’s a Florida cold snap! Heat on in the morning and the A/C back on by dinner. 

And I love it.

So I decided to embrace this spectacular day of beautiful weather. I sat on my lanai enjoying the cool breeze and the warm sunshine, chatting with the neighbors who walk by now and then. My brain kept telling me to get things done but my soul was telling me that I was doing exactly what I needed to get done: nothing. And as I truly believe, it’s those moments when we think we’re doing “nothing” that we’re actually doing “everything.”

We’re stopping to smell the roses. We’re embracing the wonder of a beautiful day. We’re basking in the breeze and warm sunshine. We’re allowing our mind to slow down. We’re taking care of our mind, body and soul.

“Dolce Far Niente: The Sweetness of Doing Nothing.”

And today I enjoyed just that.

And I’m grateful for it.

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~

“Four Weeks In Florida”

It’s been almost four weeks since I moved to Florida and what an adventure it’s been! On day 11 Hurricane Ian hit and as I picked up my parents to evacuate to my brother’s house on the East Coast I couldn’t help but think: “Why am I here?”

I had just moved down here and very little was unpacked. I spent 3 nights at my brother’s house and worried every single moment I was there. Was the house I just moved into going to be in one piece? How long would the power be out? What would this beautiful town look like?

I picked up my parents on Tuesday and I can’t even begin to describe the conditions I drove through for five hours to get us all to safety. I’ve lived through many Jersey Shore storms but this one was different. The tornado warning alert was going off on my phone, walls of water came up over the car and I swear that at one point I felt as though the front of my car had lifted off the road. It was one of the scariest ordeals I had ever been through but happy to say, we got to the East Coast of Florida in one piece.

My brother and sister in law made us feel welcome and it was good to spend time with them. We constantly watched the news and social media for any updates on the area. It looked like complete devastation for many while others suffered minimal damage.

We packed my car on Friday and drove back to see what, if anything, was left of our homes. My parents house suffered only minimal damage and next it was time to drive to the house that I called home for just 11 days.

I pulled onto my street and saw my house: a broken screen, some cosmetic bricks fallen to the ground, and a missing gutter. That was it. I remember walking into the house and literally falling to my knees in gratitude coupled with tears of sheer joy. My house was fine and I knew at that moment that I would be too. 

There are still moments I wonder why I’m here, but they are becoming far and few between. I know I’m here for a reason and with each day that passes, I find another reason why.

Trust, patience and faith.

It’s a winning combination.

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~


“Time To Say Good-Bye”

Tonight is my last night in Delaware and I’m filled with so many mixed emotions. We trekked up to Jersey yesterday to empty our storage unit and came back today to load it with the rest of my things. Tomorrow we leave for the West Coast of Florida. It’s a very bittersweet time for me. Life is about to change and it’s a big one! I’ve lived at the Jersey Shore my entire life and spent this past summer in Delaware. Tomorrow I leave both places behind to begin a new life, a new adventure, in Florida.

I’m exhausted and will certainly keep you posted on my next adventure but for tonight, I’m spending a quiet night silently saying good-bye to all that I’m leaving behind and saying a silent prayer of gratitude for the amazing life I’ve had for all these years at the Jersey Shore and in Delaware.

Tomorrow another chapter begins and tonight this chapter closes.

Here’s to change and all the wondrous things that life has to offer.

I’ll talk to you when I get to Florida.

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~

“And She’s Back!”

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“What Happened To You?”

I woke up this morning, looked into the mirror and said, “What happened to you?” If you’ve been following me you’ll know that I’ve been in a strange place in the last few weeks and I’m not talking about location. I’m talking about my mindset and feeling lost, needing a routine and needing a kick in the pants to get back to where I was with my writing.

So it was no surprise that the girl I saw in the mirror was a bit disappointed in me. It’s as if she was saying “Why’d you let this happen to you? Get back to doing things that make you feel good about yourself and make you feel happy.” And she was right. 

I got to thinking about the last few weeks. I’m a girl that loves to wear make-up yet I haven’t had any on in weeks. I didn’t see the reason to put it on if I wasn’t going out. I usually get a pedicure every few weeks but didn’t see the importance of it right now. I haven’t listened to much music lately because I didn’t feel the need to dance.

Now there’s something to think about. Why was that? Why wasn’t I still doing all the things that made me feel good about myself? Was it just because I moved? Was it because I wasn’t working? Was it because I wasn’t going out as much?

Yes and no.

And as I thought about it I changed my mindset. I shouldn’t have to have a reason to do what makes me happy and feel good about myself. I should be the reason.

Suddenly, it all made sense. Circumstances and location shouldn’t matter. Nothing should matter except that it makes me feel good and if I feel good then I can do more good for others. If I’m happy I can share that with the world.

Take my advice and my lesson learned and “do what makes YOU feel good,” no matter what. I’ve realized how important of a piece these things are for me in getting back into a routine. 

“You don’t need a reason to do the things that make you feel happy and good about yourself. YOU are the reason! And YOU are a very good reason.”

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~