“There’s a message in the way a person treats you…just listen.”
It’s the saying I absolutely believe in: “actions speak louder than words.”
All those loving, positive words you speak to someone are only truthful when the actions back them up.
All those negative, hurtful words you speak to someone are truth. It’s how someone honestly feels about you because when you truly love someone you wouldn’t say things you know that would hurt them. And trust me, those words will stay with them for a lifetime.
If you really love someone, be it your significant other, friend, family or child, why would you say something hurtful to them? You can’t take those words back and if you said them you must have meant them. And if you didn’t mean them then why did you say them? Just to hurt them because you can? To push them away? Or maybe you use those words to put them in their place as a way to control them.
Think about why you say things to hurt someone you love. No human being has the right to hurt another, especially someone who loves you. It could be that you don’t really love them, that you don’t understand love, or that love is nothing more than a matter of convenience to you. And know this: each time you say hurtful words to someone you love you bruise their heart and that heart begins to shut down little by little.
We’re all human and none of us are perfect. We get annoyed sometimes, we get angry, we get cranky…that’s okay, we all have moments like that, but it’s NOT okay to hurt someone you love. It’s NOT okay to make them feel like your bad mood is their fault because it’s not, it’s yours. And it’s NOT okay to think you have the right to say hurtful words to someone because you want to.
We have choices in all areas of our life, especially in our relationships. You have a choice of which words you use, you have a choice in the tone of your voice when you say them, and you have a choice to talk things through calmly with the one you love instead of being mean and hurtful.
And you have a choice to walk away.
You have a bad day? Work getting to you? Are you unhappy? Did someone make you angry or hurt your feelings?
We all rough days now and then, but understand that it’s not fair or right to take YOUR rough day out on another.
Think about what you’re feeling and why…
Don’t take it out on someone who loves you…
Don’t bruise the heart of someone who truly loves you..
And remember that their feelings are just as important as yours…
Be kind or be quiet.
It’s a good thing.
Wishing you love and light,
~Anne Dennish~
Anne Dennish - Writer/Author 