“The New Year’s Revelations”

(Here’s an excerpt from my book, “Each Breath Along The Journey”)

I write about this subject in one form or another every year, and this year is no exception.

Every year I notice that as the  New Year approaches, people start talking about their “resolutions.” There’s things they want to do and things they want to change in their life so they make a list of “resolutions.”

I threw that concept out years ago because to me, resolutions were nothing more than making promises to myself that I couldn’t keep. They were goals for sure, but seriously, how many of us actually stick to those resolutions? I always tried, failed at some, then beat myself up for not doing what I had wanted.

So, years ago I realized that the only way for my life to change was by learning the lessons that life had handed me, by learning from my mistakes, learning from my experiences, and so I decided to have my “New Year’s Revelations!” 

I ask myself some important questions throughout the month of December: What opened my eyes this past year? What did I learn about myself? What type of people are in my tribe? Am I taking care of myself and loving myself enough or giving too much of myself away? And what do I need to let go of that has no place in the New Year coming up and in my life?

These are the questions to ask yourself and answer honestly. You see, when you have those “revelations” about yourself and the year that’s about to come to an end, you take those lessons and truths with you. You begin the New Year with a better understanding of yourself, your life, your situations and the people in it. When you do that, the New Year will bring all that you want it to: love, happiness, joy, adventure, new beginnings, and new opportunities. The possibilities are endless.

Don’t put added stress on yourself by making “resolutions.”

Take the time to think about your “revelations” and begin the New Year in a positive light. 

All things are possible if you just believe in yourself!

It’s a good thing.

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~

“My New Year’s Revelations”

The definition of a revelation is “a surprising and previously unknown fact, especially one that is made known in a dramatic way.”

I write about the “New Year’s Revelations” every year and as 2020 is about to end I’m thinking of all that I’ve been through and all that I’ve learned. I’d like to share that with you.

My year began with the launch of my book, “Each Breath Along The Journey,” which brought some amazing opportunities for me: a chance to teach a writer’s workshop in Italy, to write for a local magazine and conduct a weekly workshop. The pandemic hit and every chance I had was suddenly gone. 

The pandemic kept me confined to the house and my daily routine was disrupted with everyone else home. I began cooking AND eating three meals a day, and not all the healthiest of choices. 

I found myself going back to a job I had left six years ago to work full-time. Suddenly I was out and everyone else was home. 

My five year relationship was falling apart and by July it had all changed.

I moved from the house I had been in for 10 years to a 9 month winter rental near the beach.

We’ve all gone through some tough times this year but as I always say “change is a chance to grow.” Some of those changes may be difficult but I always believe everything happens for a reason.

My revelations of 2020 are:

“Resilience.”Disappointment happens and things don’t always go as planned but those disappointments are a chance to do something else with what you’ve got. Sometimes those disappointments turn into your greatest comeback!

 “Gratitude.” I learned to embrace the time that the pandemic had forced me to have home with those closest to me. It slowed me down and gave me a greater appreciation for my life and all the things I had taken for granted. 

“Health.” Three meals a day equals weight gain so I decided to change all that by joining a program that not only helped me to lose the weight and inches, it’s helped me to sleep better and have more energy. My  mind is clear and more focused than ever. 

“Blessing.” The job proved to be a good thing for me both mentally and financially.

“Forgiveness.” We were both feeling hurt from all that had happened in our relationship and it forced us to take a good look at ourselves and each other.  It’s one day at a time and we continue to work at it.

“Healing.” The move to the beach house proved to be the best place I could have landed at that time in my life. I needed to heal and find my balance again.

And that’s how I’m letting go and saying good-bye to 2020, with my revelations of “resilience, gratitude, blessings, forgiveness and healing.” It’s a good start for 2021 and I’ll be taking those revelations and more into the new year with me.

Happy New Year, my loves.

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~

“You Can’t Always Get What You Want”

“You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need.” Mick Jagger and Keith Richards

I don’t always get what I want, do you? So how do you react to that?

I get a bit frustrated but then I switch my perspective. I tell myself “maybe what you want isn’t what you need.”

Sometimes a Higher Power knows better for us. 

And it’s true. Some of the things I’ve wanted in my life didn’t happen and as time passed I realized that they didn’t happen for good reason: it wasn’t in my best interest or something not so good would have come out of it.

We all get disappointed when we don’t get what we want, but if you really look at your life you’ll see that you get what you need.

What is it that you want that you aren’t getting?

Are you loved? Are there people in your life that care about you? Is someone there to help you through your difficult times and celebrate your good times? Have you woken up to another day that you were never promised?

Those are gifts and guess what? It’s all that you need.

Life may not always give you what you want, but it will always provide you with what you need.

And if it’s meant to be, it will give you what you want.

I have to believe that. 

Be grateful for it all.

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~

Photo by Anne Dennish 2020

“Everybody Hurts…Sometimes”

December 11, 2020

“When your day is long and the night, the night is yours alone,

And you’re sure you’ve had enough of this life, hang on.

Don’t let yourself go, cause everybody cries

Everybody hurts…sometimes.” REM

We all hurt sometimes. We all need to cry sometimes. We all feel like giving up sometimes.

Even me.

And that’s when you have to lean on someone in your life that is there for you, that you feel safe with, and that you can let your guard down with.

I’m going to be honest here. I’m there for anyone that needs me, anytime of day or night and for as long as they need me to listen.

Yet there are times, and thankfully not that many, that I need someone to be there for me to listen and let me feel safe to let the tears flow. 

I don’t have a perfect life yet it’s perfect for me. I’ll take any difficult situation I’ve encountered in my life and make it the best that I can, yet there are times that I need someone to be there for me. 

Let me share with you what I’ve learned and give you something to think about. You know that person that’s always there for you? The one you think has their life put together in a perfect package? The one that is stronger than anyone you’ve ever known?

They’re human and sometimes they hurt just like you do. 

Don’t take them for granted because of their strength and ability to help you in your difficult situations. Be there for them. Love them through just as they have for you. Listen to them without judgement as they have for you. And remember even the strongest of people have a moment in which they need someone.

We’re all in this together. Let’s be there for each other. 

Don’t let the strength and positive attitude of someone you know make you think that they don’t need someone to lean on every once in a while.

Because they do.

We all need each other.

Especially now. 

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~

“It’s A Wonderful Life”

You’re here for a reason. You woke up today for a reason. You’re alive for a reason.

Have you ever seen the movie, “It’s A Wonderful Life?” If you haven’t, you should. And if you have then you should watch it again.

“Strange, isn’t it? Each man’s life touches so many other lives. When he isn’t around he leaves an awful hole, doesn’t he?” said Clarence the Angel.

You’re here and if you weren’t, life would be completely different. It would be different for everyone. Your existence matters and you’re here for a reason.

Your life touches each and every single life that you’ve met along the way and if you weren’t here, the journey of those people would have been different.

Think about that. 

Your life has made an impact on each and every life you have met along the way.

You’re here for a reason.

You woke up today for a reason.

You’re alive for a reason.

Think about that.

Be grateful.

And take that “wonderful life” of yours and make a positive impact in the world and in the lives of each and every life you touch.

And you’ve touched the lives of many.

Including mine. 

Wishing you love, light and a wonderful life,

~Anne Dennish~

“If You’re Reading This…”

If you’re reading this, you woke up this morning to a brand new day.

If you’re reading this you have the internet.

If you’re reading this you have a few minutes of time all to yourself to do so.

And if you’re reading this you had a choice to read it or not.

You woke up. You have a connection. You have some time to yourself. You have a choice as to how you use your time.

You’re here.

You’re alive.

And you’re amazing.

Think about that. All blessings and all reasons to be grateful.

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~

“You Got This”

Yesterday I was blessed to see both the sunrise and sunset. Both were absolutely breathtaking. 

And it made me think to myself, “This truly is a wonderful life.”

Each day I wake up I say “thank you” because I have been gifted another day, another chance to live it better than the day before, and another opportunity to stop and smell the roses.

And I realized this: “I got this.”

And so do you.

You’re amazing and I’m grateful for all of you.

Live each day to its’ fullest and know that “you got this!”

And you’re doing just fine.

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~

“Wish The Pandemic Away, Not Your Precious Time”

I hear so many people say that they can’t wait until this year is over. I get it, it’s been a crazy year with this virus but why wish your precious time away? Why wish a year away that you were gifted to live each day through?

Why not just wish the pandemic away? After all, that’s been the problem, hasn’t it?

I always say that life is a mindset and this is more true than ever. Stop wishing the year away because those are days you weren’t promised but days you were blessed to have. Don’t take any of them for granted.

Wish the pandemic away and do what you can to prevent the spread of it.

Life is short enough as it is so please don’t let this pandemic make you lose sight of how precious each day of your life is. Don’t let the pandemic make you forget to live each day to its fullest. 

And don’t let the pandemic make you forget that each day with the ones you love, whether together or apart, is a gift.

Go ahead and wish the pandemic away.

But please don’t wish your precious time away because of it.

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~

“A Different Thanksgiving”

Last year at this time I was getting ready to cook yet another Thanksgiving dinner, thinking of which chairs would be empty that year. 

And again this year, I miss my children that are scattered around the country who aren’t able to fly home for dinner because of their jobs or college classes, except this year they can’t because of a virus, of loss of jobs, or crazy college class schedules. I’m missing them yet again for the holiday, but realizing that even if they could come home right now, they can’t. 

My parents have come to my house for every holiday dinner. This year my mom was recently in the hospital and while she can still drive a few minutes up the street with my dad to have dinner, they can’t. She can’t put herself at risk of getting the virus.

It seems that we’re all spending a lot of our time complaining about this virus and how it’s affecting our holidays, but why? It’s such a negative mindset. I’m missing my family as much as you’re missing yours and I don’t want to put anyone at risk. 

Enough of what I don’t want to do. 

I’m going to focus my energy on what I can and will do. 

I will be missing my children being home, but I can video chat with them.

I will be missing the tradition of going around the table as each of us told our most embarrassing moments of the year, but we can share those stories by phone.

I will be cooking a turkey and all the trimmings, just as I do each year. My parents can’t be at the table with me, but I’m going to bring the table to them by delivering them a Thanksgiving dinner.

The tradition has changed a bit, but all that I’m grateful for hasn’t. It’s still Thanksgiving to me no matter what. The memories of past holiday dinners will always be in your heart and new memories of a “2020 crazy corona Thanksgiving” will be made. Life is a mindset and you have a choice to make the best of each and every situation you find yourselves in.

Find yourselves in gratitude. Find yourselves covered in blessings. Find yourselves together even though you’re apart this Thanksgiving.

Happy Almost Thanksgiving.

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~

“The Trouble Is, You Think You Have Time”

“The trouble is, you think you have time.” Buddha

The truth is, you don’t know how much time you have.

The time you spend being angry with someone is a waste of precious time, which none of us are promised. The time you spend not speaking to someone is a loss of time that you will never get back in this lifetime. The time you spend paying someone back for upsetting you is holding you back from moving forward with them.

People talk about missing loved ones that have passed, that they wish they could talk to them one more time. I understand that but what I don’t understand is why they wouldn’t feel that way about someone who is still here and in their life? I have lost loved ones throughout my life but their passing has taught me to embrace the loved ones who are still here. I don’t want to miss any time I have to spend with them or talk to them.

Don’t waste the time you’re given on this Earth being angry or ignoring someone you love. You’ll never get that time back and you never know if that’s the last time you’ll talk to them. It’s like that old saying, “Never go to bed angry.” And it’s true.

I don’t want the last thing I say to someone I care about to be negative, hurtful, or spiteful. I don’t want to treat someone badly because I’m upset. I don’t want to waste one minute of my life holding onto negative things and missing the good things.

Don’t waste this precious time you are gifted. Be grateful for each day that you wake up and use your time wisely, not wastefully. Let someone know that you love them. Tell someone that you’re sorry. Communicate your differences together with love and respect. Use your time to do good things that can make a difference in the life of another. Don’t waste it on negative things that will only hurt you or someone else in the end. One day you’ll wish you had that time back to do things differently but once it’s gone, it’s gone for good.

What difference do you want to make in this world with the time you’re given? One that people will remember with a smile or one that they’ll remember with sadness?

The choice is always yours.

The time you’re given is a gift. Don’t waste it.

And that’s just my thoughts today.

Wishing you love and light,

~Anne Dennish~